Is it cheating even when it's not physical?

Infidelity is always assumed to be sexual.

The moment you utter the words ‘cheating’ or ‘infidelity’ people assume that the culprit has been involved in sexual transgressions with a third person. However, infidelity can also be emotional. In fact more often than not, it is emotional. Here, we break this down for you and explain this unfamiliar, yet highly prevalent, occurrence.

1. What is emotional infidelity?

Consider this: you are in a relationship. You love your partner and enjoy a healthy sex life. Yet, there is this one friend who you love to talk to everyday; she is that one person who you turn to in times of crisis or joy; she is the first person to come to your mind and you are always looking for ways to talk to her. If you find yourself in a similar situation, then you are committing emotional infidelity. Emotional infidelity is when we get emotionally close to a person who is not our partner.

2. The signs

When one is cheating or being cheated on, there are certain give-away signs that one can look out for. For one, your partner will stop sharing their feelings with you and will no longer confide in you. When you probe your partner, you will realise that there is nothing wrong with her, but still something integral has gone missing from your relationship. Less talking, not sharing of feelings, less conversations are all signs of emotional infidelity.

3. Why it’s more dangerous than sexual infidelity

A sexual transgression is a physical need and doing. When caught, it is relatively easier to no longer be physically involved with the person. However, the same does not hold true in case of emotional infidelity. When you are involved with someone emotionally, it is very difficult to tear away from the person. This inability to emotionally call it off results in divorces / break-ups because there can never be room for a third person in the relationship.

When in a relationship, it only makes sense to give it your 100%. However, if you do find yourself in a similar situation then you need to take things in hand before all hell breaks loose.

1 2 3 . . . of a great kiss

All men want to be master kissers; only a few actually manage to be one. 

No man will accept the fact that he isn’t a good enough kisser and needs to work on his ability to kiss. But secretly, all men at one point in their lives have browsed articles that tell them more about how to kiss amazingly well. We believe that even the best one’s can do better, which is why we present to you, tips that will help you learn the art of kissing.

1. Hold, Don’t Grab

When your girlfriend is standing/sitting very close to you, just close enough to allow you to kiss her, hold her gently. Most men make the common error of latching on to their girlfriends. Such a movement makes most women feel unsafe and uncomfortable. So, hold her tender and allow the mood to set in.

2. Lips & lick

Hold her face in your hand and kiss her lips first. Then tongue them. Please don’t shove your tongue down her throat right away. It will be the most unpleasant thing to do. Allow your tongue to feel the smoothness of her lips and allow her to feel yours. It is very important that you work your lips. Don't just leave your mouth open as if you were breathing in air. Move it and give your jaw muscles some much needed exercise. Play it slow and let the tempo build.

3. Tongue-play

Do it like the French! Play with your tongues: tongue kiss, kiss her tongue and even suck on it. Use the tongue as your foremost weapon and play with it. Along with this, engage in kissing and biting (gentle), and you are bound to get her excited and aroused. However, the most important thing here is not to smear her face & lips with saliva. Eeeeks! Let that happen, and you can be sure this would be your last kiss with her.

4. Full throttle

Once you have spent enough time kissing and tonguing and gone through with the above subtle steps, you can now completely tongue her. But again, don’t be hasty. Do it gradually and with the flow.

Armed with the knowledge of the ultimate art of kissing, you can kiss your intimacy nightmares good bye: at least till you don't jump into the next step without proper guidance from us.

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Alone . . . but having FUN !

Who said fun is something you can only have when you are with friends? Beer buddies, tennis court mates and childhood pals you hang out with are NOT needed for you to indulge in some feel-good factor! Read on to know how.

1. Watch Movies

If you are a movie buff, you certainly don’t need any company to have a good time. You can either rent a few DVDs, or stack up on downloaded prints, to prepare for your movie marathon. And hey! You may just not realize how the afternoon, or maybe even the entire weekend flew past!

2. Read Books

If you are an avid reader, you certainly can have a lot of fun alone. Pick your favourite authors from the local library; make sure you have enough bags of chips to munch, and of course, a comfortable couch in the house to park yourself on.

3. Gardening

Possessing a small garden can be a lot of fun. You can procure a few tools, get some pots and plants from a local nursery and get digging! Not only will you land up having fun by yourself, you are also bound to feel enervated and pleased with yourself. In the process, you may also become the proud owner of a pretty little lawn.

4. Travel

A weekend getaway to a quiet hill station, or even a long holiday spent in solitude can do wonders to the soul. Take along your favourite books and music. If you like to capture your memories, carry your camera, notebook or laptop along. Indulge in the sights, sounds and other pleasures of the new locale and feel your mind and body getting refreshed.

5. Learn a New Instrument

There can be nothing more uplifting to the morale than accomplishing something all by yourself. Why not take online classes and learn to play a music instrument that catches your fancy?

6. Online Activities

Speaking of doing things online, there is a plethora of activities that can keep you occupied and engaged. Whilst online games are certainly No. 1 when it comes to keeping users hooked, other activities also exist. Social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and many others are a pastime for many. Online chatting is also interesting and exciting. Simply reading about topics that interest you can also be a lot of fun!

Being alone is not a bane. In fact, if you know how to make the most of your time alone, you can really have a lot of fun. So, enjoy yourself!

Secrets

Money matters

Okay, we didn’t miss the memo and yes we do know that it’s the 21^st century, but according to studies women do like men who have money. One study found that 64 per cent of women would still prefer their men to earn more than them. A study from the British Journal of Psychology confirms that women are attracted to men who drive expensive cars.

If you’re thinking that your girl doesn’t want a man with money and that she’s happy earning all the cash whilst you sit on the couch catching up with trash TV, think again; she’ll never tell you that she wants you to be rich because it’s bad taste, so you’ll never know the truth.  

Flirting

Flirting is something we all do, but your girlfriend seems to flirt with everyone and anything. So, what should you do? Confront her and kick up a fuss? Chances are, she’ll just say she was being friendly. Although seeing your girl flirt with other men is wounding, scientists say that women flirt to get what they want in life and you could benefit from their fluttering eyes as well.  

Researchers from the University of California and the London School of Economics conducted studies into female charm and found that flirting makes men feel good so that women can get what they want. The study suggests women who flirt get around 20 per cent off of the original price of the car they were buying.

White wedding

When you were dating, you both shared the same common fear of big, overindulgent, frivolous white weddings. Yet, since you’ve popped the question your girl seems to have changed. All she can think about is walking down that aisle and rather than the quirky, mellow wedding you both discussed in your dating days, you’re getting a princess-themed ceremony at a big, expensive country club.

Even if your girl thinks she doesn’t want a big, white wedding, secretly, under all of her indie, cool charm, she does. It’s as if the white dress and bank-breaking décor is hardwired into every girl’s brains and it’s practically going against nature to ask for a low-key do.

Sex 

Do you constantly feel like you have to beg for sex? Do you find yourself doing chores just to get her into bed? You are not alone my friend. Researchers found that men who did chores around the house got 50 per cent more sex than those who didn’t. Could it be that because women have less desire to have sex than us guys that they are using sex as a reward for chores?

Maybe, but gentlemen, a study undertaken by Kinsey Institution found that women felt being sexually satisfied was a priority when it came to being happy in a long-term relationship. So, putting these two studies together means that women do care about sex and that maybe they’re just telling us they don’t need it so that we do the dishes; just putting it out there.

Orgasm

It’s been drummed into girls that telling you she doesn’t orgasm when you have sex with her will shatter you. Yet 16 per cent of women are thought to never achieve orgasms, whilst 26 per cent of women reported faking an orgasm during sex in a study of 50,000 women from the US, Australia and the UK.

Yet, in the midst of wild, hot sex how can you tell that she’s faking it? Well, like us, when women come they are pretty uninhibited and just go with it. If you look at your girl and she seems pretty controlled then she might be faking. If you think she might be faking, ask her what she’d like you to do to her in bed and ask her for a little guidance. Read more on realbuzz.com...